tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7792520621180872664.post7023662825192736308..comments2016-02-16T00:05:40.565-08:00Comments on Confessions of a Co-sleeper: We're in this togetherAmyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02057320365645931085noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7792520621180872664.post-26190719178212068412011-07-18T17:38:07.779-07:002011-07-18T17:38:07.779-07:00I agree with Kate, I stopped reading parenting boo...I agree with Kate, I stopped reading parenting books because they were all making me second guess every thing I did for my children. Sometimes I just don't know what to do so I will do a little research on a specific subject but I generally pick and choose what advice I want to follow, because those authors don't know my children, they don't know me and they don't know what my family situation is. Everyone has different needs, different personalities and every baby is SO DIFFERENT! I didn't understand that until I had number 2 she was completely different right from the start. It's like they are little people or something...ha ha ha :)EPVCCorierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11030582156078863231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7792520621180872664.post-19442869352642835232011-07-18T15:06:19.025-07:002011-07-18T15:06:19.025-07:00The way I resolved that conflict for me is to quit...The way I resolved that conflict for me is to quit reading parenting books. I know it sounds so "head in the sand" but I feel like there are literally as many ways to parent as there are parents. Even if people follow Babywise, or the Baby Whisperer, or attachment parenting, everyone does things differently. And there's a good reason. We're all different. And that's a good thing. If I stop worrying about parenting theories, and if I'm doing things the way someone else thinks I should, I find I'm a much better parent. I do what I believe is best for my family and my children, because I parent my children differently too. They are different, and they have different needs. If they were with a different Mom, maybe they would do better differently because Moms have different needs. So do things the way you think you should for your family, ignore the stink-eyes, and don't shoot the stink-eye at anyone else, cause we're all trying to be good moms.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08286193461203338463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7792520621180872664.post-2069509922303949932011-07-18T13:36:37.033-07:002011-07-18T13:36:37.033-07:00I think you already answered your questions - it&#...I think you already answered your questions - it's because everyone is different, including babies. <br />Dave and I were just talking about this at lunch actually. If I were to never let Joshua cry until he went to sleep, he would never sleep. He simply does not go to sleep while being held, and sometimes gets so tired that he cries and it only gets worse if I try to pick him up and comfort him. Granted I don't let him cry more than 3 or 4 minutes before comforting him, and since I know his cries, I can tell which cry means "i'm so tired and i will go to sleep in a few minutes if you just leave me alone" and which means "i'm uncomfortable/stuck/too hungry to sleep, come rescue me".<br />I know we've already discussed this over chat, but I could also never have Joshua sleep in the same bed as us (although he did sleep in the same room for a few months) because of my husband's active sleep activities (jumping out of bed, yelling things, shaking me awake, smacking the wall, etc.). <br />Again it all comes down to what your baby needs and what works best for your family. It's hard to not judge others that do it differently, hence getting the stink eye for doing one thing or another, but if you just try to tell yourself that whatever they're doing works best for them, then it helps keep yourself from judging others' parenting choices.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02496184925937159537noreply@blogger.com